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3 Ways to Keep Your Commitments

April 28, 2017 Tom Grove
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Once we count the cost and are willing to pay the price, then our commitment becomes something we make a daily decision to keep. We have a friend that has run marathons and she shared with me that it is about mile 20 or 21 that one’s resolve begins to give out. The sheer exhaustion of putting one foot in front of another for mile after mile becomes almost too much to bear.

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Is It Worth It?

April 19, 2017 Tom Grove
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Marathon runners are a special group of people. They run 26 miles not to escape from anything nor are they trying to get somewhere, but they run for the fun of it. . For me, running 26 miles isn’t any fun. I have often said that if I am going to go 26 miles, I am going to get in the car and drive it. I do admire those who are able to run marathons, or even for that matter, half marathons. As some of you know, preparing for and running a marathon takes a lot of commitment. It takes commitment to train as well as commitment to finish the marathon on race day. But as anyone who has finished a marathon or a half marathon will tell you, when you cross the finish line the commitment was worth it all.

However, before the shoes are laced up, a mile is run or an endeavor undertaken two things must happen. First, the cost must be counted. One must determine what the cost would in order to make the commitment to run a marathon. This cost is calculated by asking, “Do I have the time, the energy or the resources to commit to this endeavor?” Whether it be running a marathon or an opportunity that arises in life, the cost must always be counted. Even Jesus pointed this out in Luke 14:28 when He said, “But don’t begin until you count the cost. For who would begin construction of a building without first calculating the cost to see if there is enough money to finish it?”

Counting the Cost

The interesting thing about leaders is that there comes a point where their decisions about activities is not one of good vs. bad, but a choice between good vs. better. A key way to help to make that decision to commit or not is by counting the cost. “Do I have the kind of time, the kind of energy, the kind of resources to give this endeavor so that I can commit wholeheartedly?” John Maxwell points out, “The commitment becomes much stronger when you have already counted the cost.”[1]

Determine the Price to Pay

The second thing that must happen is that you have to determine whether or not you want to pay the price. Is committing to this endeavor worth the time, the energy or the resources that need to be invested to be successful? You may notice that as you are answering this question that the price is too high for you to commit to the endeavor. It may take too much time away from your family or job. It may be something that you don’t have enough energy for the long term. You may not have the resources to be able to commit to this and be successful.

I will admit there have been endeavors I have undertaken and have committed to, but then realized that I hadn’t counted the cost nor was will willing to pay the price to be successful. I then had to ungraciously admit to making a mistake in accepting this opportunity and back out, all because I had not counted the cost or was willing to pay the price it took to be successful. I hope that before you commit to doing something, especially long-term that you will count the cost and be willing to pay the price before you say, “Yes.”

Conversation:

  • Are there situations in your life where you find yourself not being committed to an endeavor you have undertaken?

  • What can you do to make sure that you count the cost and determine whether you are wiling to pay the price before you agree to an opportunity?

[1]John Maxwell, Today Matters, 162

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ntegrity—more than simple honesty, it's the key to success. A person with integrity has the ability to pull everything together, to make it all happen no matter how challenging the circumstances. Drawing on experiences from his work, Dr. Henry Cloud, a clinical psychologist, leadership coach, corporate consultant and nationally syndicated radio host, shows how our character can keep us from achieving all we want to (or could) be.

In Integrity, Dr. Cloud explores the six qualities of character that define integrity, and how people with integrity:

  • Are able to connect with others and build trust

  • Are oriented toward reality

  • Finish well

  • Embrace the negative

  • Are oriented toward increase

  • Have an understanding of the transcendent

Integrity is not something that you either have or don't, but instead is an exciting growth path that all of us can engage in and enjoy.

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How to be An Iron Man

April 5, 2017 Tom Grove
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Can you imagine going to work every day for 16 years without missing a day?  His job was not a normal 9-5 job but was a job that required him to perform at the highest levels. He didn’t take a sick day, or just a day off to rest.

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How to Get the Most Out of Your Thinking

March 29, 2017 Tom Grove
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Now that we have looked at the importance of thinking and the types of thinking now it is time to talk about the nuts and bolts of thinking.

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What Thinking and Ice Cream Have in Common

March 23, 2017 Tom Grove
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One of my favorite foods is ice cream. Not only do I love ice cream because of it cools you off on a hot summer day, but I love the fact that there are so many different flavors of ice cream. Baskin Robbins boasts of 31 flavors. The awesome thing about Baskin Robbins 31 flavors is that you can have one each day during the month and never repeat. I love that kind of  variety. For some people when you say, “ice cream” they think of chocolate, another might think of vanilla, or chocolate chip cookie dough or my all-time favorite peanut butter cup. The best part is that they are all ice cream, just different types.It is the same way with thinking.

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Put Your Thinking Cap On

March 8, 2017 Tom Grove
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When I was a kid anytime I had to answer a question or solve a problem, I was told, “Put your thinking cap on.” Did you ever hear that from a teacher or from your parents? As leaders, in order to be successful, we need to always have our thinking caps on.

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How Attitude is Like A Cold

March 1, 2017 Tom Grove
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I hate being sick. The runny nose, the coughing, the sneezing, the fever, and the chills. You know what I am talking about.  I have noticed since I have kids and since my wife works in an elementary school, there are all kinds of “bugs” that get brought home. And as careful I can be washing my hands and disinfecting everything when they are contagious there are still times when I “catch” what they have and get sick.

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Find Something Positive in Everything

February 22, 2017 Tom Grove
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Dear Lord,So far today, I am doing all right. I have not gossiped, lost my temper, been greedy, grumpy, nasty, selfish or self-indulgent. I have not whined, cursed or eaten any chocolate. However, I am going to get out of bed in a few minutes, and I will need a lot more help after that. Amen.

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How to be Successful in Every Relationship

February 15, 2017 Tom Grove
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So if you want to enjoy mostly pleasant interactions with people as you go through you day, treat others well. While it will not work 100% of the time (there are still cranks), I have discovered that our positive attitude toward others can encourage them to have a positive attitude toward you.

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A is for Attitude

February 8, 2017 Tom Grove
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Attitude is something that you don’t think about unless of course you run into someone that has a bad attitude, at the grocery store, at work or gasp, church. Our attitude is one of those intangible things that we ourselves don’t think about but those who live with us or work with us know an awful lot about it.

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Welcome

January 25, 2017 Tom Grove

This blog will discuss various topics that will help you in our journey to be the man that God has called you to be. I look forward to the discussion and feedback that will result.

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